Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Speeches

Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Speeches

Being a maid of honor or best man for your friend’s wedding is an honor and can be a ton of fun. Who doesn’t love a good bachelorette or bachelor party, standing next to your friend at the altar as they pledge their love and tearing it up on the dance floor afterwards. Let’s be honest though, the expectation of giving a speech at the reception can be enough on the nerves to make the whole experience a dreaded task.

There’s no reason though to get freaked out. We have a few tips and ideas that will help make the process simple and set you up for toasting success. First step is to prepare!

The biggest thing you can do to give a meaningful speech is don’t procrastinate. We always recommend writing down a general outline of what you want to say at least a few days ahead of time, so you aren’t scrambling to put something together at the wedding and can be totally present on the day. This will help you to be more confident, heartfelt with your words and avoid saying something too embarrassing.


Things to Do:

Introduce Yourself.Share your name and then give a brief explanation of how or when you met the bride or groom. Most likely, not everyone is going to know who you are and context goes a long way in helping to share a meaningful speech that connects with the audience.

Acknowledge the Hosts.Express how excited you are to be at the wedding. Thank the bride and groom and others who are hosting the night such as their parents.

Include a Personal Touch. Share a story, memory, joke or character quality you admire about the bride or groom that conveys the respect and appreciation of the friendship you have.

Encourage.Share a word of encouragement, advice or quote for the couple’s future. If you aren’t married or haven’t been married very long, maybe even ask someone you know that has a long lasting, inspirational marriage such as a grandparent for their best advice and then share it in your speech.

Toast.Don’t forget to ask the guests to raise their glasses to toast the couple, and then make sure to take a sip out of your own glass.

Things to avoid:

Crude language and explicit stories. You may be trying to get some laughs from the audience, but these stories rarely help make your speech meaningful. The reason that so many of these stories are still told at weddings are because people haven’t prepared ahead of time and are scrambling to say something.

Reference a lot of inside jokes. It’s fun for you and the couple, but remember that a speech is supposed to be shared with the entire crowd. It should help them experience the beauty of the day, not feel left out from the fun.

Deliver a roast. This is not your moment to audition as a standup comic. This is about celebrating the bride and the groom. Keep your roasts for another day, and keep your speech kind and encouraging. They will thank you for it.

Have too many drinks ahead of time. We get it you’re there to have a good time. And don’t people always say a few drinks calm the nerves? While you are there to have a good time and enjoy your friend’s wedding, just remember the day is about them. Having a few too many drinks before you give a speech may find you with loose lips embarrassing not only yourself, but also the bride and groom.

There you have it! You’ve given a killer speech and now you’re free to party.

Dear COVID-19 Bride, Jesus Cares About Your Wedding

Dear COVID-19 Bride, Jesus Cares About Your Wedding

Jesus’ first recorded miracle was at a wedding. It wasn’t a healing. it wasn’t a prophetic fulfillment. It was a personal gift, for a couple and the celebration of their marriage. 

When I read this story this morning, I saw it in a different light than I’ve seen it before— I thought of all of the brides facing uncertainty during the Coronavirus pandemic. I thought of all the brides we’ve talked to that are having to delay or even cancel their wedding celebration they’ve worked so hard to plan, organize, and pay for. It made me think of the bride getting married this Summer— looking at her budget and wondering if she should order and send her invitations because she can’t afford to reprint if something happens. It made me think of the couple who has already waited a year — and is giving up their big day plans to elope so they can start their life together. It made me think of all the brides facing all the unknowns, and feeling like her perfect day is ruined. We feel for you. And we’re doing our best to walk alongside these brides as they make these tough decisions.

So when I read this story in the book of John this morning, you, bride-to-be, came to mind. And I want you to remember this today— Jesus is still in the business of working miracles. Not just healing miracles, not just miracles on a global scale, but little, personal miracles. He still multiplies, he still uses difficult seasons for a beautiful harvest. He still works all things together for the good of those who love him, and are called according to his purpose.

“Now there were six stone water jars there for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water.” And they filled them up to the brim.  And he said to them, “Now draw some out and take it to the master of the feast.” So they took it. When the master of the feast tasted the water now become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the master of the feast called the bridegroom and said to him, “Everyone serves the good wine first, and when people have drunk freely, then the poor wine. But you have kept the good wine until now.” This, the first of his signs, Jesus did at Cana in Galilee, and manifested his glory. And his disciples believed in him.

John 2:6-12

Your plans may change, but God is working in ways you might not even be able to see. Whatever your day ends up looking like, if he is there, it will be perfect. Keep your eyes on him and on each other, and let the One who turned water into wine work out the rest of your perfect day.

Victoria + Mike | Elegant Barn Wedding at Cardinal Creek Farms | Augusta, Kansas

This day was a really special one for us. Nathan and Mike have been co workers for years at various jobs through college and beyond, and Nathan got to watch as Mike’s love for Tori grew and blossom into something so special and beautiful.

The first time I (Patience) met Tori was when I was asked to photograph the proposal at Botanica last Christmas. I knew as soon as I captured those moments and congratulated them that the two were absolutely PERFECT for each other. Both Mike, Tori, and all of their families truly made us feel so loved throughout the whole wedding photography process, and we loved getting to be a part of their special day and even stayed to celebrate on the dance floor after our scheduled hours of shooting were over.

A thousand congratulations to this beautiful couple. We can’t wait to see what the Lord does in and through their marriage.

The Hastings Family // Adventure Session

Our favorite thing about photographing families is just watching the natural relationships and dynamics come out. It was so much fun to get to capture the Hastings Family over their Christmas break together. One of the families lives in Colorado and times with grandparents, aunts uncles and grandchildren together is rare and sweet. Such a joy to document these moments.